I really don't want you to believe I am giving you a 2x4. I realize that it may be very hard to come to grips with reality when in these situations..
I do think that we are on to something with the biker dude. The evidence is taking us in that direction. One thing I am sure of.. There IS someone else she has her sights on. Her friend is her cover. My guess at this point is the biker dude because of what you have posted. He lives near the friend, she was with him at the fair, she was searching about Sturgis, she called him right before Christmas, his number is in her phone.
If it looks like a duck and walks like a duck.........
You have little chance to bust this divorce if you don't have the guts and the fortitude to get to the nuts and bolts of this OM. Secretly you are LOSING her respect because she KNOWS deep down inside what she is doing is wrong. Since you are allowing her to lie to you and not call her on it, then she secretly can't respect you.
You will begin to earn your respect back when you quit letting her sidetrack you based on her LIES of what she is doing.
As far as what you say about you are no worse off with what happened yesterday.. Again, you are acting like you are in denial.. You are only allowing them more time to get CLOSER, which in my opinion is YOU going backward. Going backward isn't the same as no worse off or going forward.
I wouldn't contact the mutual friend. It never works.
Hire a P.I. or have someone you know follow her or whatever else you need to do, but it would be in YOUR best interest to get to the bottom of this. You have already shown that you may not want to believe what you find out, so be aware. You have tried to "downplay" this biker dude. How can you downplay your wife being seen by someone you know, caught leaving with another man on his bike? Come on Clinging let's wake up here. This is how women in affairs act. It isn't how women who have male friends act when they are married. I think you do secretly know that is true.
She again gave you a red flag when she told you she couldn't come home last night because of the weather.. Another red flag buddy...
Remember that I am here to HELP you get this saved. In order for you to do that you must start with the FACTS.
I am telling you as a friend Clinging, there is an almost certainty that she is interested in someone else. I believe it is imperative that you do all you can to prove otherwise...
The evidence isn't always by email, computer or phone. Especially when they are scared that you know how to snoop on those things.
What you did yesterday was fine. Remember that you don't need to be a mean person to be strong. Smoke this affair out and get it in the open. She will deny, lie and deflect. Don't fall for that anymore.
