Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

He may be looking for you being done so the D doesn't hurt you as much.

This is my worry. What I don't get is that before October 15 (when he brought up the D last) I was not being mean, not being nice. On that day, I was sad and he saw me tearing up. So he brings up the D on that day??? Weird. I did turn things around the next day and told him 2 weeks later I didn't want the D (to which he looked surprised but said "I know.") But I did let him start taking S to OW on Saturdays.

Also, (and I am just looking for possible explanations for his behavior here,NOT trying to necessarily disagree with the idea he is looking for me to be done)
why hasn't he encouraged me to date or told me to "have fun" when I went out those last 2 times? Why has he been continuing to be nice instead of pulling away himself? Like I said, before I started doing this Plan A type thing, he was just kind of average. Polite. I start doing the cooking, cleaning, good mood, working out, looking good, complimenting and he is nice in return and has not brought it up since.

Yes, I know my H but not the WH alien.

Although I started to pull away, I remember what the DB coach said and I have said it repeatedly: don't read too much into things this month, good or bad, because the holidays play with everyone's emotions. Don't do anything too drastic. He encouraged me to keep up what I have been doing for the time being. So I hope I'm not effing it up...

Oh about the 8 hours on his day off; I was thinking 5-6 instead. My S is not even 6 months old yet.