I am walking through a mine field. W wants to make trouble at every turn. I am trying to control my negative feelings and validate hers. Yesterday, I told her I was going for a run. She got angry bc I should have been cleaning the house. (Historically, I would have stopped and cleaned and nursed a nice grudge). After I ran, she resumed blaming a mess made by D2 on my abence. She announced she would not be going to Christmas with my dads family this weekend. I didn't argue. Said sorry you feel that way and I won't beg you to go. The rest of the day I was cordial and upbeat. Last night, she wanted to leave me out of the family scrabble game. MIL intervened. W argued with MIL over whether I could play. I stayed out of the fray so as to avoid the appearance of builing alliances. Today, more hostility and baiting. Me, smiling like I just got laid. This is hard
