H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
OMG Snoderly you have such great advice. I love this one! The one thing that I strongly urge you not to do is to continue pointing out the things he's not doing. I have to really try to remember that.
Even though I don't converse with my h much, it is good to remember this. My h is still in the blame game. H text me at 2am today and said he couldn't understand why I continue to say negative things. I text him back and said I had NO idea what he was talking about. Of course, he didn't text anything back.
I only wish my h could get out of that state of mind.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Hi Everone! Its been a while since I have been on here and unfornuately I see alot of new posters.
Everything for me and H are great! We are really enjoying ourselves. We are going to Colorado in a little over a month to see family and are taking our time traveling and seeing some of the sites out there. Remember Colorado is where I found out about the OW when we were up there for a family reunion. H an I have put all this behind us now. Thank God!! We have moved forward in our new M and life. Its a wonderful feeling to put it all away.
I remember coming here and feeling so hopeless and getting advise from all you wonderful people. I tell you now if it wasn't for you all, I would have never made it to this point. I thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!
I am going to be a grandma again in August! WooHoo, I am so excited!!! Its a girl!! What a blessing to have grandbabies!!!
I haver read all your posts and threads and find them so much like my current situation and they help me stay sane and understand how to support H by detaching lol.
I am so happy to hear your good news with H and a new Grandaughter on her way in Aug. Life is really good after MLC journey. Also good to hear for us newbies who are at the beginning and doing our best to understand the way to handle this.
You know something Libby, what really helped me at the beginning of my H's MLC, is reading anything I could get my hands on, joining this board, and going to C to understand what had happened.
MLC was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I thought it was over with me and H. They are truely CRAZY!!!!! After he came home finally for the last time, we talked and talked about everything. Got it all out in the open. I asked him alot of questions about what he did and why. He doesnt remember alot of things that had happened but that seems to be the norm.
Another thing that was really hard for me was the detaching!! I would think I was detached but I wasn't. Once I reached the point where my H wasn't consuming my every thought and I didnt care what he was doing I knew I had made it.
Hang in there. it a long hard journey! Take care of yourself!!!
Congratulations on the news...another grandbaby on the way! How are your parents doing? You sound absolutely wonderful! You deserve all of the happiness that life can provide to you and your h.
Enjoy!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
