Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

So WH just came to pick up S. I let him know about how S was, and all the presents he got, etc. I was tempted to mention other details like how much fun we had but didn't want to rub it in his face. I think he can tell from the mess!

He was going to give S a bath when he dropped him off today but I explained that we are going to my dad's and was wondering if we could "exchange" S in the Taco Bell parking lot on the side of town where my dad lives when he is done seeing him. I think he was a little surprised.

I just explained that I don't want S to have to be in the car for so long today and it would cut an extra 40 minutes. He said that was fine.

Now tomorrow he is expecting that I will go to his mom's with him, and his mom sent me an email wishing me Merry Christmas saying "I look forward to seeing you and S." But I did see her recently and I totally think she will not be offended if I don't go. So I really will need to take down all of the Christmas stuff tomorrow and will surprise WH again I think when I tell him I won't be going. I won't be making a huge deal, just say "well, sorry but I think I'll pass this time because I really need to take down the Christmas stuff! Say hi for me!"

Believe it or not, these 2 actions scare me. I just am so much better at being agreeable and pleasant than doing things like making him drop off our S in a parking lot or not going with him to his mom's. (And going to his mom's is not a sign of anything; we have gone together in the past since the S).