That's why, in your case ssmguy, it seems horrible for you to go to strippers...these women have been abused just like your wife was, they are just acting it out in a different way. I really wish you would take this into consideration, ...
Again, I have no argument with that. My lame response to that is, well, it's no different with my wife. If I try to have sex with her too, it's just perpetuating the abuse. No matter who it is, it seems, there is a good reason for me not to have sex with that person, yet I really can't manage without some kind of sexual activity with a real person once in a while. It's the nature of my situation and I'm used to it.
I should also add, I also know masseuses who provide a little extra, etc. I'm not so big on strippers in particular. But that might not change your argument much.
I can handle the physical urge myself on a daily basis, but there's also a powerful need to be physically close and sexual with a woman once in a while. If it goes too long without that, I fantasize about it more and more. It helps to have a recent memory of a real encounter, or the expectation of a real encounter in the near future. So the situation I've chosen to put myself in has turned out to be sexually unmanageable, at least in the sense that I would find it very difficult to be completely celibate the way some other patient and devoted men seem to be able to be. But I can tell you that if I have a wife who is sexually receptive and energetic, I would have no interest in meeting up with someone else, and my personal history backs that up 100%. The way I see it, sex with the same person can get better and better as you know more about what turns each other on within a fun and shared privacy.
