@P--I felt I don't have anything left to lose. I stink at DBing it seems. I had to get it off my chest for the past 8 mos that he is an adulterer and have him read it. I was happy to tell him that he doesn't make me afraid to threaten D. If he does file, I'm ready. I mean it. There's been not one bit of remorse from that man.
It's not about DBing DBD. It's about your sanity. Your strength. Your self-confidence. That is the stuff you have left to lose here.
He is an adulterer, but I can't help remembering what PDT (I think) said to me quite some time ago - you can't teach an adulterer. He knows what he is. He knows what he has done. He knows you know. He doesn't care. If he did, he'd stop or at the very least minimise it's impact.
There will be no remorse from him until he realises what he has done. In order for that to happen the A needs to end and he needs to hit an emotional rock bottom. Until that happens, and it may never happen, you won't see anything from him but venom, spite, guilt and hurt.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
