h is in mlc, now threatening divorce...

[lost1234]

Hi to everyone! hope your holidays were great!

g,

thanks for wishes...they were ok, did have a good time! i must confess, some things were said xmas eve. i need some input!

ill try to be brief, it got quite ugly.

my husband came in xmas eve morning claiming another 2 bedroom apt in our area was for rent.

i do not want to move, especially into an apartment. our girls are content where they are.

h feels we would be better off and i couldnt disagree more. they have enough on their plates. i will not stand ny and be a part of dishing them anymore.

Gnosis,

i lost it. literally. he had me so angry. if he chose to walk out the way he did, he doesnt get to make major life changing decisions.
his leaving was enough.

i KNOW i f@#ked up...
these are things he needs to know tho.

he doesnt get to tell me where to live
he doesnt get to tell me what i can and cant do
what to feed the kids
what to spend money on


SOOO many things that he truly believes he is in control of...

no. if he is not going to be a part of this family, it is up to me how i am to make it work out the best for myself and out daughters.

all he need to know if how much money he need to pay me and then just leave it up to me to do what need to be done.

Gnosis,

i LOVE this man with all of my heart, i have and continue to put in very hard dedicated work to saving what we have. i am sick of the indecisiveness and being told what to do...he left.....not me.
he made fun of my support groups..i could go on and on.

mlc sucks for all involved. depression and anger just add fuel to the fire and i am worn out. the man needs some help.


is there a way for me to recover from this?

for as much as he seems he wants to help and do whats right...he reached out a bit to family members...he keeps making things harder. if he were to put a bit of energy into the normal way of life, he would be amazed at how far it may take him...

if he cant handle simple reality, and get help for himself so he can be that GREAT dad and loving husband he was, i cant do it for him...aaaaaaarrrrrrrrgggggggg