Not sure what to do

[Awoken]

But now when I stand up to her it leads to an argument.

In spite of what some women "think" they want......they really don't want to call every shot all the time. They truly want their man to speak his mind. Then, she has the freedom to express her thoughts as well and hopefully they can come to a compromise.......but if not, somebody has to be the "president" over this business of M.

This, and the rest of Sandi's post means a lot to me. Attempting to please my W, I've let W take the lead and then been surprised when she resented me for it. Now that I've started making my own decisions, I often have to deal with her anger, but I can often tell that there is some relief and RESPECT in her eyes. Of course I have to get past her spew of anger first. Sandi is very articulate, and how she describes doing this without being a bully is right on target. Even though it's really making my W angry , I do think it's the one area she is respecting me in right now.

By the way, sounds like you handled christmas great Stu. I'm glad you had a good day with your S. It was good to hear the reaction of your inlaws! So what if theres "no change in W". You left feeling good. Congrats in your self-growth/improvement.