She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Thanks Gucci,
I do think she is involved in some kind of A. It ways heavy on my mind.

I found an EA very early, and unfortunately I revealed to her that I knew and she very quickly closed down all my sources of info except the online cell phone records. I really wish I had installed a keylogger then!

Her travel has been unpredictable. We have a 3rd car (for D17 when she's ready), and she's starting switching cars. She has kept her cell phone with her at all times, except once and there was nothing on it. I just drove her to the airport, and found out her new cell phone is a blackberry, and she will likely no longer be using the home network to access her facebook and emails.

So I have two issues now:
1) I'm don't know how to get anymore info/intel on her A
2) more importantly, the likely OM is related to her work in such a way that revealing the affair will absolutely lead to her losing her job. In the case of a D, my L tells me this will actually end up costing me a lot more money(taking money away from D17's college and S13's support).

Of course, I'm not at all certain of 1 and 2 above. Just unsure enough that I haven't jumped in yet. I've been focusing on getting through the holidays and taking care of my kids.

One last point, which is a very strange coincidence that I need to check out. Last saturday, after W had her huge fight with the kids and breakdown, she retreated to our neighbors house (nieghbors were out of town). I check the cellphone records, and she only called one person. I searched the number, and it was another parent(father)/volunteer at her school. The coincidence is that he has the same name (first and last!) as the man she had an affair in the 1sy year of our marriage. From what information I could find, it's very unlikely it's the exact same guy, but it's still creepy. I mean, after what had to be one of the worst days of her life, she doesn't call one of her friends or family, but calls this guy instead? It was only a 2 minute call, so I presume she left the number of the home she was staying at and he called there.