Your h is reliving his youth and he's at the age when his father left. Many of them will act out that period of their lives when something such as his father leaving him. I'm not surprised to hear that someone in his family had walked out the door. The reenactment is something that they need to go through in order to better understand the "abandonment" issues that they have stuffed deep down inside of themselves.
I understand where you are coming from about a family who has no divorce track record. I came from one of those myself. Families don't understand the concept of MLC, but they are trying to help us along, i.e., protect us from hurt and harm. They only want us to get over it and move on and be happy once again. Unfortuantely, w/a MLCer it takes a very long time.
Please try to enjoy the holidays. Spend it w/family and friends. You need their support right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
