here we go again

[Jstar]

thanks hope you did as well.

i did get h on phone, spoke for a few minutes. admitted he lied about having an attorney,keeps saying he wants his family, wants to be in house 'we" bought together. i keep validating his feelings. asked if he wanted his family how is going about accomplishing that, he wanted to know why i say he's not trustworthy.

i said i didn't doubt that he loved d2 but his decisions has put her in a bad situation where her care was not good, he got super angry, always protecting his mommy, i explained d2 is thriving where she's at, didn't tell him she is potty learned,

he'd start to raise his voice i tell him then i'm getting off phone, he'd calm down, says he sorry for his mistakes knows he's messed up that he's admitted them, i asked to who, he says to friends and others. i was like well alot of good that does to the person it really matters to.

kept validating his feelings. i did alot of when you do this it makes me feel, i was calm no yelling, he vented and vented. i said it sounded as though he was still angry and needed more time and space from us, so then he asks if he can talk to d2, she's standing infront of me, i ask her if she wants to get on the phone, she asks is it her aunt,(in her words) i say it's your father, she shakes her head no, h hangs phone up.

i waited a little bit tried calling him back and he didn't answer, i even called a few hours later, got mil on phone asked for him, she claimed he wasnt there.

if he did get on the phone i was going to try to explain that the situation is hard on d2 and she is upset and it would take her some time to feel comfortable with him, i was going to suggest he come over, visit with her, with me there so d2 is comfortable, but he never got on phone no did he call back.