Hey, it's been a week since you've been on. How have things been?
Here's hoping that you have a good holiday weekend.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
Hey everybody. Sorry its been a while. My computer broke first. Then for Christmas we went out to my FIL's cabin at the lake for a week. He doesnt have a computer out there either. But thanks for checking in on me! Much appreciated! Typing this on my cell so hope it works. Here is an update. Since last being on here things have been good. He has been treating me like his wife again. Pretty much as normal as before he left. Christmas Eve he told me he loves me. It was so nice to hear. Since that might he tells me all the time. Like my real H. This weekend was the big ski trip. Its been okay. He called me the first night and we chatted a bit. The second night he text me for a few hours and then called me before bed and told me he misses me and loves me. But then last night I didnt hear from him till nine o clock. And he just basickly said he was out for supper and left his phone in the truck so thats why I hadnt heard from him. This coming from the man who has a blackberry attached to his hip. I didnt respond as I was furious. Just because the peOple he was with have no kids doesnt mean he doesnt have any. I called him too earlier cause S3 asked to talk to him. He missed his daddy. It has been three days. Well H didnt call. I called him a few hours later before bed to say goodnight but he didnt answer. Now I am upset again.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Well Trent. As far as I knew and we discussed. Yes we are committed to this marriage. But when one goes away for the weekend and hardly makes an attempt to call home, doesnt return my calls while he is there is barely an effort to make this marriage work.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Should I be over in Piecing now? And how do you apply DB techniques to my situation. Its hard now that he is home?
Have you read DR yet? I would start there.
Work on 180s and GAL. Don't pursue R conversations until/unless he wants to discuss things.
You do see how this works, right? He ignored you for a weekend, and you kept pursuing contact with him. Why isn't it the other way around?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
