I don't recommend timelines for anything. Every person and situation is different, so tying yourself (or the WAS) to an artificial "deadline" is frequently counter-productive.
Think of it like instructions in a recipe. It likely says, "Empty whipping cream in bowl and whip until firm", not "Empty whipping cream in bowl and whip for five minutes". Why? Because one person might whip faster than another, resulting in something more akin to butter in the case of the former and a runny mess in the case of the latter. The key is the end result, not the "timeline".
Likewise, you're going through a process that will take some time. How quickly you move through it, what you discover along that journey, and when you make those discoveries will be unique to your sitch and the people involved. I can sympathize with the desire...the need...for some semblance of order and control, but you have to learn to wait for the point when something just clicks. You'll know it when it happens, but you can't predict or schedule it.
Originally Posted By: Wholeagain
Another stupid question. How do you know if they still have feelings for you?
The short answer is that you don't (and can't). Sure, there may be some clues, but they can have so many meanings and are so often overridden by other factors that they are virtually useless. That's really the underpinning for the concept of acting "as if", because what's happening in that scrambled brain is probably indecipherable to the WAS and almost certainly to you.
