Thank you all for all your kind thoughts and best wishes.
Yesterday went better than I could have hoped for. Thankfully there was a no show from the baby. D14 and S17 both disappeared off about 5pm to have tea with their dad (which made me sad but I never said a word). They are having lunch with him today too which makes me angry that he insisted on taking up part of my day with them AND wanting his own time today. Deep breaths. I can and will be the better person.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15