H told me when he dropped the bomb that OW knows he is married with three kids. But during my searches in his e-mail back when this all started, he told her he was single. His Facebook has no relationship status. I am on his friends list and you'd think the last name would tip her off...duh. But I have no pics of us, so I guess he could lie if she thought to ask. He doesn't have me on Myspace - lied to me months ago and said he doesn't have one. He has two and she's on both, and on both he's listed as single.
So I'm wondering if she really knows? Because I don't think I'd probably be doing a background check on a guy I dated to see if he's single when he says he is. I just want to know if she's more innocent than he says. She's still in an A with my H, and that's gotta end, but what if she doesn't even know? So I've been wondering if I should say something to her?
This was the e-mail I was thinking of sending her:
You may have noticed me as one of the Facebook friends Josh Brown has. I see that you consider him very special and that the two of you are romantically involved. He came to see you in Virginia, after all.
Are you aware that he is married and has been for going on six years? His, or should I say our, anniversary is June 26th. We have three sons, ages 4, 2, and 1. Josh Brown is my husband.
He says you know all this. But I thought that you at least deserve the benefit of a doubt. If you did not know, then I bear you no ill will. If you did know, well I’m sure he’s told you about my many failings and I’m in no position to judge your choices. But he is my husband. And your relationship with him while he is still married is not only inappropriate, it could cost him his job and land him in jail. Please discontinue all contact with my husband.
I thought it was direct, but not rude or accusatory. It proves I know where he's been (though he still doesn't know I have physical proof) It makes this personal - telling my kids ages and my anniversary - without sounding desperate or needy. I sure as hell don't need her thinking I'm sad or jealous of her. I want it to be factual and set a clear demand.
Or should I not send it at all do you think?
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
