Smiley I've never posted to you before, but I've followed your thread as a fan of your writing style. I drank a Phucket® brand beer this evening. I suggest you do the same...and take her to the cleaners.
You not only have to worry about your own well being, but that of themselves. You are the better parent (you know this to be true). She should pay a premium to have her children raised by a true mensch. Listen to RobX. Let her be a grown-up.