I guess I am feeling like I'm the one stuck with making the decision here. She almost seems pathetic in my mind when I think about how immature she has been being about everything. There's no way she can live on her own. And she's living with dbag now and thinking that that is her only option. She just isn't smart about anything right now.
This is where you get to be the grown-up and make the decision based on what is best for your boys and you. I suspect that you've been like a lot of my doctor friends--they bring in the $$ and let their spouses make the family decisions. I'm not critical of that arrangement because M.D.s have a lot on their plate. When it breaks down, however, the M.D. involved is often not ready to make the necessary decisions. Unfortunately you now have to be superman. You can do it...you made it through residency after all.
Don't worry about what she may be thinking...you're wrong (even if you're right). Make your decisions based on your own value system. You have to be true to yourself. That's the only way you'll be able to look your boys in the eye.
