Gotcha. Oddly enough, when I saw them on the counter, I cried. Just let it out.
Then thought I'd rephrase her note to its true essence: "I abandoned you, abandoned our vows, selfishly took away a (formerly ) great companion, friend, partner, lover, playmate, wife. Emptied our home. Turned it into an empty house. Led you down a garden path for over a year: One year temporary respite: revoked. We can get a way with it: revoked. We'll spend weekends together: revoked. We'll run weekly errands together: revoked We'll continue to be intimate: revoked I'm still committed to our marriage:revoked We'll go on dates: revoked. We'll talk every morning and every night: revoked I'll pay towards the house: revoked You're still my Gardener and always will be: revoked Well, I'll at least pay the homeowner's insurance: revoked. We'll still go on Gardner Blended Family Annual Seashore Vacation together: revoked I'll still pay for half of said vacation as always: revoked In addition, I'll decide irrevocably that I want a divorce on Feb. 5th and won't inform you until May 13, (while continuing to give you false hope by continuing MC for those 4 months). I'll not even use the word Divorce for months ("I won't be stepping back into relationship with you") I'll finally tell you why I want a divorce but not until October 9th. I'll enter into mediation and repeat the words "50-50 split on everything while asking you constantly for more than 50-50. I'll strap you with all the household expenses and repairs on your own for a year and then still ask for my half of the sale proceeds. I'll do my best to maintain blended family relationships. Revoked. I'll accuse you of stalking me and refuse to believe you when you deny it and are appalled by it. I'll accuse you of pre-separation sexual abuse even though your "crime" was simply getting aroused each night when we spooned in bed. I'll tell others you stalked me and sexually abused me. Then I'll say I still want to be friends despite the above and despite the fact that I've proven I am anything but by all of the above and by proving that my word, promises, commitments, and vows were meaningless.
Oh. and then I'll bake you Christmas cookies with a note that says "G, Merry Christmas. I wish you peace, Mrs. G."
Well, I wish you honesty, loyalty, integrity, truthfulness, decency, vow-honoring, unselfishness, unalien-like behavior and so much more.
I'll regain my peace before you regain (or attain) any of those.
I'll be fine, but you, my former friend, are in for a big fall eventually.
Yeah, I threw the cookies in the garbage, all right. Followed by Christmas morning emails to my suddenly estranged Step-Children telling them I'll be here when they're ready. Oh, yes, and a Christmas Morning email to you saying, "thank you for the cookies. That was so sweet of you."
Right.
Okay, I'm done, now (did a fairly succinct job of getting all that off my chest)
Last edited by Gardener; 12/26/0905:07 AM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
