She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Hi Awoken, sorry you are having such a hard time. Chiming in with some support, take it for what it's worth.

It meant a lot these past few days; thanks again

To answer your last line, 8 weeks, 8 months, 8 years ... there's no fixed schedule to follow. You're on a rollercoaster you didn't sign up for, and nobody knows who long the ride is gonna last. I would suggest 8 weeks is probably a pretty short time to decide if you're done.

I worry it's too short too, but sometimes I think our rollercoaster is missing some tracks. Her drinking and BiPolar makes things seem so risky. As much of a wreck as I am, I think W is in much worse shape. I'm very worried about her, as well as my kids.

I'm guessing you might feel at times like you're in a leaking boat bailing out water, with W just looking at another bucket, and you're wondering when she might take it up and help out, or punch another hole in the boat.

Yes! That's pretty much it. Sometimes she's punching holes, sometimes I think she'll help out.

It's obviously not good that the kids are affected. For now, see if you can calm down and take things a step at a time, including setting up some boundaries where the kids are better protected from what's happening ...

I think this is what I've been failing at the most. I've been trying to set boundaries, and then she blows right by them. The only consequence left that may mean anything may be D. Again, I'm worried that I'm rushing it.

I listened closely to what you said these past few days: I calmed down a lot more, and focused on my R with the kids.