Could it be that H was miserable today not just because of me and our tiff this a.m.? We had a fairly recent conversation in which H told me that one of the things that resulted in a big conflict between H and OW before their break up was when he told her he would not spend Christmas away from his kids, which meant being with me too since we weren't even separated at that point. Apparently this resulted in her not speaking to him for a few days. She apparently has a very dysfunctional family and likely spent the bulk of yesterday and today alone (or at least that's what she told H to gain his sympathy... its not like she doesn't have all kinds of friends, etc.) Anyway... I am wondering if H was struggling with mixed emotions of choosing to be here, genuine about working on the M and choosing us, but feeling sympathy for her, missing her etc. Which... logically I know is to be expected, but emotionally... well, it just sucks big time!
Just a thought that occured to me....
Whether I like it or not, better to face it, acknowledge it, and deal with it.
So, do you ask your spouse about that... if they are feeling anything like that? Or just leave it? H is pretty open with me about stuff like that.
