Merry Christmas to you, Jeffy. One of the hardest things for me was letting go of S19 last year when I left H. Then a freshman, his grades tanked, and I carried the guilt. Read what Kerry wrote on my thread last week. He was right. I've learned that I need to take care of Goldey first, and sometimes that means 15 times in a day. If I let them go, they will come back. And besides, they were never 'my' children to begin with. They're God's. love, Goldey