Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

I called his bluff on the D and told him I'm not afraid.

I think this is fine and it shows strength from you!

I want input on the kids telling him they know about OW. They've known for a while and they think they shouldn't let time go by with him thinking they are in lala land about it.

I know that marriagebuilders really believe that the kids should know their parent is having an A. I don't see the harm in them telling him other than it will cause more arguing and conflict. Your D went ahead and texted him without your knowledge, so how can you stop them from speaking their mind?

I feel this has been like an inflamed situation that had to explode before anything better is to happen. Whatever it may be. Ugh

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This is what my SIL said about her divorce (if it happens to you). She said sometimes the marriage has to die before you can start anew (they are working on it now).

So, about you getting a job in 2.5 months. I'm so glad you are filing for financial support. What kind of a job could you get after being a SAHM for all of these years that would support the standard of living you need for the kids... and what training is required? You are going to school to get training. You ARE becoming more independent!


just stop the texting for awhile and think in terms of how your responses and behavior could hurt you legally. ((DBD))