I'm so glad that you enjoyed your time with family and friends. That helps create new memories, which is what helps all of us to let go of past memories a little easier. We'll always have those old ones, but new ones are like turning a new page.

I do feel for the kids not hearing from their dad. Regardless of how they try to seem mature about the whole thing, it must still tear them up inside. I'm not entirely sure that WAS are truly ignorant of the hurt they cause...they just like to hide their head and not have to deal with the consequences of their choices/behavior.

Your H, along with other WAS are missing some of the most memorable times of their lives wallowing in the choices they have made. I have no doubt, in the back of their minds, that holidays still bring back memories, and that they still feel the pain of not being part of what they use to have.

But you sure wouldn't want them back until they really understood the importance and blessing of having a loving family and spouse. It's hard to go through holidays without them, but I think it would be worse having them home and them not feeling blessed for what they have.

You're a very strong woman, and your kids are lucky to have one parent that stays true to the course.

Blessings to you and your family now and in the New Year.

Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible