As best I can determine, the most likely answer to that is the combination of OW showing her true colors and me showing mine as well. What I mean by that is that OW is a 23 yo flake pot, immature, abusive, extremely self centered and very possibly mentally unwell. I could actually see signs of all that very early on into the "friendship" btw them (even though I only ever met her once in person... at church of all places). But I could see all that simply from her interactions with him on FB and the bits he was telling me before he stopped talking about her and started lying/hiding. Apparently, her fun, adventurous, flirty side was too attractive for him to see all that then.
Anyway, as I applied the DB principles, and then confronted the situation when I found out the full truth, I think things became clearer for him. After I confronted, OW seemed to think this meant she could kick things up a notch and put the pressure on for him to move out and move in with her. When he saw that she seemed to not give a s**t what was happening to his family and she became more and more demanding and abusive, he had to face the reality that she was not the "fantasy" he thought she was.
While she was doing this, I set boundaries, backed off, focused on the kids and me, GAl'ed and kept working on my 180's.
I don't know if this answers your question, but its the best I can answer....
Sorry you are struggling. That really sucks that he is introducing OW to his mom! You keep up what you are doing and you never know.... There were many points that I truly did not think things would turn around. He was so adamant at certain points that he had met the person for him and he and I were "never meant to be together". It was so devestating. But, here we are celebrating together as a family. Hang in there... no matter what, DBing is good for you!
Wishing you some peace of heart and mind today Aver...
