Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

WAH picked up the kids at 9:30 instead. I missed out on some fun at my party. Oh well. Then he dropped them off at 2am! He gave them lavish gifts.

At 2:30am D13 sent H a text asking why he will not be providing for us. H then called her later saying I'm a liar and that he left me savings to use. Said I can get a job and I need to be independent. I didn't know about this and didn't ask her to do it, but H said to D that she's "doing my work" of discussing it with him. D said he's a "monster" and so mean. She doesn't want the gifts he gave her.

He then sent me and email that was pretty nasty and telling me to be a good example and get a job and be independent. That I should be able to get by with the savings. (It's only enough for 2.5mos). I've had enough of NC. I'm feeling like I've been a doormat accepting insult after insult and he's getting away with so much.

Okay... in between writing this, I've been having a nasty exchange back and forth w WAH. I know I'll probably get 2x4s for it, but enough is enough. Now he said he's filing. I just am tired of being in limbo. What a nice Xmas gift. He can't handle me calling him an adulterer and said I don't have the facts straight. Umm... he's still technically married. Not that adultery matters here in this state, but still. I called his bluff on the D and told him I'm not afraid.

I want input on the kids telling him they know about OW. They've known for a while and they think they shouldn't let time go by with him thinking they are in lala land about it.

I already told WAH that I was going to tell the kids why he left. He said I need help. He repeated it several times that I need help. Trying to provoke me. He says that to everybody when he runs out of comebacks. I feel this has been like an inflamed situation that had to explode before anything better is to happen. Whatever it may be. Ugh.