The flashback / pain part, as I posted elsewhere, it may not ever go away entirely, but you'll get a better appreciation of the "pain is there, suffering is optional" saying. You may not ever like the fact you can't change what happened, but you can remove the hurt that surrounds the situation.
Oh, and did you mean Willow Tree figures? Gave me goosebumps that. Much earlier on in my sitch, W bought me a few. 2 were for me specifically, the ones named "together" and "promise" (together sounds like the one you mentioned), plus "family" for well, the family.
Hi Deep, I have never heard the "pain is there, suffering is optional" saying before, but I like it. I am going to hang on to that.
And yes... I did mean Willow Tree. I think I had too many rum and eggonogs last night...lol. I love them (oops, I mean Willow Tree not rum and eggnog, although...... those are pretty good too, lol)! And, yes, the one I got is "Together". I have admired it before and given it to others as a wedding gift before. H knows that is so meaningful for me. Wow, what a coincidence that your W gave you those as well.
We've had a bit of a roller coaster already today. I don't want to go into the details, but something triggered me, which was very understandable and I didn't handle it well. So, now I am struggling because I really should apologize for the way I handled it, but when H reacted to me he was so taken aback (did not get AT ALL why I was triggered) that he made it seem like I was crazy to be triggered at all and that he didn't care that I was. So, because I am hurt about that, now I don't feel like apologizing!
Ugh! It's Christmas. I should just accept responsibility for my part, swallow it, and be the big girl. I get tired of always being the one to do that, though, as I am sure most of us are.
Anyway... can't let that ruin what has been a meaningful Christmas so far.
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