The flashback / pain part, as I posted elsewhere, it may not ever go away entirely, but you'll get a better appreciation of the "pain is there, suffering is optional" saying. You may not ever like the fact you can't change what happened, but you can remove the hurt that surrounds the situation.
Oh, and did you mean Willow Tree figures? Gave me goosebumps that. Much earlier on in my sitch, W bought me a few. 2 were for me specifically, the ones named "together" and "promise" (together sounds like the one you mentioned), plus "family" for well, the family.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.