Originally Posted By: SoldierDad
Merry Christmas all,

had fun last night with family, woke up this morning feeling sad and depressed again. I just can't shake the thoughts of her.

Also, I am absolutely dreading the thought of dropping off my boys with her, as she is going to do or say something to hurt me.

She is having a Christmas party tonight at our home, with her "friends". She told S15 this last night, knowing he would tell me.

It just drives me crazy these thoughts.


Merry Christmas SD. You caught me on here for a brief respite before the next wave of W's family arrives.

OK, two things. One, you cannot control what your W does/says/thinks. But you CAN control how YOU react to what she does/says/thinks. Get control of you.

Two, live in the present. Don't borrow trouble from the future and things that may or may not happen.

Understandably, you feel worried, hurt, angry, resentment. Hate to say it, but welcome to the club. We all have those feelings. But how we deal with them is what seperates those who struggle with this and those who can deal with it. Only you decide which you will be.

You can handle this. And you will.

Focus on your family today. All we are really promised is the now, not the future.

Last edited by givingitmyall; 12/25/09 04:30 PM.

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