Sorry you find yourself here but you're in the right place and fortunate you found it so early on in all this.
I read your sitch on the link. You must take care of yourself first. Only you know what needs to be done to take care of you. If it requires counseling, legal action, whatever, do it. YOU are the only person you and your child can rely on at this point.
There is no trick to detatchment and I believe having kids makes it even more difficult. I say this from experience as I sit alone in my apt at 1:00 AM on Christmas morning having taken my kids to X this AM (Christmas Eve) for the third year in a row.
Let your H initiate contact, even to see your child. Try to put him out of your life in every way possible. By doing so you may achieve detachment and allow him to experience the loss associated with his choices.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
