i agree about the db coach, i need to do it and i will just not at this moment.

after he left that msg yesterday about taking d2 to mil, i stressed all day him calling, showing up so d2 and i beat feet out of the house, went to dinner, came home then he left a msg. he wished merry xmas, like to come in to give presents to us, his family bought d2 some, he started talking about R, i said it wasn't a good time, validate him saying our xmas suck, told him mine didn't i was upbeat and hear the sadness in his voice.

he started to stay stuff from the botton of my heart, he tried to blame me for stuff, i said well if your going to talk to me that way i am going to terminate conversation, i felt legitmately bad for him. i did bunch of no no's and tried calling him back, thank goodness he didn't answer. i was about to say to him, that i felt bad and was going to make a gesture. oh yeah he also asked if he could come over xmas and i said we had plans, i feel bad about that too.

i think i did ok dbing, i terminated convo before him, said i was busy validate his feelings...

we will see.

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline