What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Sleepy]

The past few days have been good for me. My W has been fairly pleasant her mood is softening. She even did a favor for me the other day. There was an outburst of anger today from her when she became upset that I hadn’t swept the rugs all week, but the agreement with the DB board was that the housework was to be kept to a minimum and I have kept my word. I validated her anger, but the response from me was cookbook, and her return quip was “Where did that come from one of those books you have been reading?” At first became angry but I tried not to show it. I thought, this is her anger, her boundary, why should I let it bother me.

She is a very intelligent woman...I can’t pull these “catch phrases” on her.

When she started in with the vacuum, I picked up the hand held and helped. I suppose I wanted to foster the team approach. We need to work together.

Christmas eve was nice, we went to my in-laws; A pleasant get together.

When we returned home, it had snowed. The snow had blown up on the windows and they were frosted up like you would see in a fictional Christmas story. I lit a fire and the entire picture was just beautiful. I thought to myself, I hope it’s not my last Christmas with my family. If it is, God truly gave me a gift. I’m so lucky.

While we waited for the kids to fall asleep, she put in a chick flick, "Julie and Julia". This movie was indeed porn for women. Both of the husbands in the movie were so supportive of their wives, but I got it. If you really love someone, you will listen to and support them in anything they do. My W had an affair because I wasn’t there for her. I didn’t listen to her and give the emotional support that she was craving. I get it now. I saw it. I just hope that I’m not too late.

After the movie, we played Santa and Mrs. Santa. We were stuffing the stockings when all of a sudden everything that was on the mantel crashed onto my head. I cracked up.. then she cracked up and asked if I was OK. It was a great way to end the evening. She said goodnight and went turned in to the master bed room. While I retired to my room.

Tomorrow I am thinking about moving back into the master bedroom. Things seem to be going so well right now and I’m not looking forward to the conflict that this may stir up. I suppose I need some reassurance.