So I think I basically have to file for divorce. A legal separation doesn't hold any weight with regards to enforcement. It makes me really sad that she is forcing my hand like this. LIke a 16 y/o having a tantrum, leaving damage in her wake, only to realize it much later.
My bias is to never loose a battle of wills to a 16 y/o...especially if my boys are watching. I would play hard ball, for what it's worth.
Originally Posted By: Norseman05
I still don't want a divorce at this point. But I don't see any option other than filing ASAP. Can I delay it as we go along and still get the benefits of the court enforcement? I am also going to make her pay for her own attorney, bills, etc as of now.
Any thoughts? She is coming over today to hang out, leaving tonight, then returning tomorrow.
You're going to have to trust your attorney's judgement regarding the benefits/costs of filing sooner rather than later. If you have so little trust in her that you need the law behind you, then file. The best interest of your boys should be your guide in making this decision.
Tomorrow (today, your time) be gracious and civil for the sake of your boys. Defer any relationship or divorce talk to the attorneys. Since she made such a show of having an attorney, let her put her money where her mouth is.
Last, but not least, document everything that she says and does. Connect the dots, i.e. skin tag removal and brazilian shave job. Even though your state is a no-fault state, the law is still applied by human judges who have some discretion.
