S17 told me last night that he and S14 told their Dad that they won't be celebrating Chrismas with him if he insists that "she" be there. They said they have refused to do anything with her, she is not part of thir lives now and will not be later either. Wow. Hard to stay out of it but I know it is his mess to deal with and not mine.
I just don't get how WAS can be so incredibly blind.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi Kat, Wow, thats so big of your kids to make a stand like that and state their boundaries with their dad, thats great. Althouh, a mess as you say. I wonder what exH response was?
I wanted to thank you so much for stickin with me this year and for all your wise words. This really is such a great place of support and friendship. I may be in Piecing, but doesnt mean that things are all peachey for me but like all of us here, I count my blessings wahtever they may be!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Surprisingly, after some discussion, ex said fine. She won't be there it will just be us. I expect that to be a lie but hope it isn't. My kids have gone through so much and it would be nice if they felt as if they had a Dad.
I felt really humbled and honored when S14 asked me to help pick out his present for his girlfriend. She has helped him to get to a better place and while I know she is still a kid herself, I am grateful.
S17 expressed some frustration that his Dad doesn't have a clue what to get them. He has chosen to not keep in the know with the boys and thus is at a loss. I hope I've done well enough for us both.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
