Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[C-Bart]

Gima,

Beautiful "Your family isn't going away, it's just getting re-defined".

This is the same thing I used to tell my kids. Took me months to believe it though.

[Coach]

Merry Christmas Antlers! Stay focused on what you can do now.

Cheers

[iwantittowork]

Merry Christmas Antlers! I wish you and your family the best!

[antlers]

I want to be strong, love my kids, and get through this with strength, honor, and dignity...and compassion. Compassion for MYSELF as well as others.

You don't have to 'want to be', you are! We see it here in your posts, the strength, the honor, the dignity and compassion.

Thank You. It's a pisser...this first Christmas with a shattered family.

Or, the first Christmas for you to make some NEW traditions with you and kids. And you and YOU. Your family isn't going away, it's just getting re-defined. Still painful, but you still have "your" family.

Hi GIMA.

Thanks for putting things into perspective.
I hope you and yours have a great Christmas.

[antlers]

Gima,

Beautiful "Your family isn't going away, it's just getting re-defined".

This is the same thing I used to tell my kids. Took me months to believe it though.

Yeah, it's true...but it's still painful and hard.

[antlers]

Merry Christmas Antlers! Stay focused on what you can do now.

Cheers

Thanks Coach. Merry Christmas to you and Greek too. I intend to do as you advise.

[antlers]

Merry Christmas Antlers! I wish you and your family the best!

Thanks iwantittowork.

I wish good things for you and yours too. Merry Christmas.

[antlers]

"IF. What a powerful word. IF I had only done this or IF I hadn't done that, IF SHE only knew how sorry and how much I've changed...Then the sadness that comes along with the realization that IF doesn't matter anymore. It just doesn't unfortunately." - GIMA

True that!

[givingitmyall]

Hey man. Have a Merry Christmas. Both of our Christamses will get better from here on out. B/c we won't let it be otherwise.

Take it easy on yourself.

[iwantittowork]

"IF. What a powerful word. IF I had only done this or IF I hadn't done that, IF SHE only knew how sorry and how much I've changed...Then the sadness that comes along with the realization that IF doesn't matter anymore. It just doesn't unfortunately." - GIMA

Hope your having a good Christmas Antler's and GIMA too. I am getting ready to go get my d8, and checking in on folks here.

If: A powerful word. Also a false word.

"If" forces you out of the present, into the past or future. It implies that you could have changed the past. It implies that the future could be bad or good depending on some decision you have not made yet in the present.

Both false, because you know you can't change the past, nor predict the future.

I hope you all enjoy the day with your family, today in the present!