NC - W vanished ...

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Update.

Dropped off a present for W's friend's son. She is a nice girl.

Ended up staying there for just over 2 hours chatting about life, babies, and of course W. Told her a few home truths about her friend that maybe I shouldn't have. The girl is so easy to talk to it's difficult to not get carried away. However I did tell her that it was over between me and W and that the marriage is dead. I also made it clear that if W was not going to be D's step-mother anymore, then she needs to leave us alone.

Friend was very supportive on me stopping contact with D. She has a 6 year old boy. She basically agrees with everything I have done. She disagrees with W's Facebook stuff.

There is stuff going on in the background - she let that slip but didn't elaborate and changed the subject.

She gives me the impression there is no chance of any reconcilliation. W has moved on completely with her new life. She kept telling me it was good that I had come to terms with it all being over. The last time I spoke to her she was saying maybe the time apart is what we needed ... change of stance there.

I also had the full story from D about what W said to her earlier:

1. D said she missed W and W said she missed her too but mummy and daddy wouldn't let her see her.

2. She couldn't let D have her present as mummy hadn't texted her.

W is using D as a pawn against me and D's mum. It will backfire on her and I hope she stops doing it for her and D's sake.

It hurts again to hear that W has moved on but I obviously knew it anyway.

Friend also hasn't seen her much as W is working a lot and spending all her other time with OM (as expected). She also said that W said she had been unhappy for a while (more script).

It was a good talk. I GAL'd, did 180's, talked about me and friend said that I seemed a lot happier.

The most important bit for me, and the bit I hope is passed on is that I want me and D to be left alone.

Just an update, nothing more. Tired. Off to bed now. Santa will be here soon ...