Thank you for the good thoughts everyone. Last night was my office christmas party and this afternoon I have one for my Mom's family to attend with the kids. Keeping busy does help.
Originally Posted By: TrentC
He didn't misunderstand. He thought he could push you and get away with it.
He did get away with it that night, but he won't again- at least with me. *Part of me wants to report him for assault, at least to the establishment where I met him at. I'm sure that wasn't the first time he pulled that on a woman. All I know is his first name tho, and I won't get far with just that, but maybe he could be blackballed or something if they can figure out who he is. *The other part of me says just forget it and move on, lesson learned. And that's what I'm going with. And discovered a topic of discussion with the IC- why the he!! don't I feel anything about it other than kicking myself? Just like with H, I'm not feeling the rage, it bugs me somehow, but no anger. Am I just that good at burying it?- because I can't find it.
It's been onwards to more pleasant adventures this weekend- Christmas, New Years, and good times with reconnected friends and new friends. And looking for my new "normal"!
The other part of me says just forget it and move on, lesson learned. And that's what I'm going with.
I agree.
And regarding the boundary and the H-visiting-all-the-time discussion a while back: Keep in mind why you moved. Your primary physical boundary - aside from your body - should be the threshold of your doorway. Do not let him pop by and visit. Insist on maintaining this one very much needed sanctuary. imo
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
