I blew it today - in the holiday mode and too excited over his recent steps toward me - a mutual friend apparently invited H to a xmas party and like a non-DBer said, "Can I come?"
Ugh.
In some ways, it was an understandable question considering this is the first xmas we are separated and this mutual friend would normally invite us as a couple. Heck, this is the guy who married us!
So H was defensive and basically said I put him in an uncomfortable situation asking that question. I told him he should just be honest and we can figure out what's most comfortable for everyone. H is not great at talking.
And very conscious of my DB mistake, I am now kicking myself.
I guess since my H asked to come along to our "ski vacation" I figured maybe we were at the point of negotiating what we do alone or together.
Guess I'm supposed to wait for him to invite me or not?
