Boundaries

[ClingingToHope]

Jeff I have go through those emotions every week. At least she went out on a date with you and it was natural to ask again. She said no so take a major step back. See what another month of dark brings.

When do you try to reconnect is a huge question, especially if you have someone who tends to run from difficult situations. Last night I asked my W if she'd like to come to church with me and our daughters. We haven't spent any time together since D7's birthday party in July and we've had two relationship talks, September and October. One of those was good, one was bad.

I'm like you. My head tells me that if I invest enough time that this will work out. My W is so difficult to get to know and shy with people that I'm the only one who ever dated her longer than three months. It takes a lot of work to get inside her heart and eventually she'll come back to me.

But I don't know if my heart can take the waiting. I feel like I'm holding us both back by holding on.

A major question for you. Are you financially ready and able to file and OK with the consequences?

In my case, I have a few more hundred to save up and would actually be better off in D than in limboland. My W, I don't believe has any money to D and would just exist this way indefinitely.

Once I have the money then I'll have even more decisions to make.