Lotus, I believe you may have misread. This is a letter to my in-laws concerning their disrespect of choices my H and I have made together concerning our kids. I simply sent it to my H to let him know his mom might be calling him royally ticked off at me!
While I know that pushing away my in-laws may be a result, it is a risk I have to take. I have allowed them to walk all over me since before I married. I am learning to define boundaries. My H and I are 100% on the same page with everything I said in that e-mail to my MIL. He despises his parents btw. They are just barely on speaking terms at all. We've discussed it extensively. Or rather, I've complained to my H what a pain his mom is and he has agreed. But I have never done anything about it before. I suppose I expected him to do or say something since they're his parents. And I let it go on for five (close to six!) years, just doing more of the same and hoping for different results. Quite silly. I was doing a 180 - we'll see how it goes. Change the action; change the result.
Absolutely nothing I do is an attempt to speed a divorce - it's the last thing I want. Half the point of making these changes is to show my husband the strong, beautiful, decisive woman he stands to lose. The other half of the point is to prove it to me.
LOL. Check my tarot cards, eh? Have they been whispering to you as well? I don't need them to "see" you have a lot of anger - I think it's misdirected at me. But hey, we all need a target once in awhile. I can take it.
The humor, for me, comes from finally being able to say what I think, to allow myself to be in control of my own life/marriage/parenting rather than just doing what is expected of me and allowing others to control me with what is "socially acceptable." I also enjoyed the irony of explaining that for people who value respect so highly, they almost never respect my H or me.
I think that if you read my thread more carefully you might notice some flaws in your response. You certainly don't have to - that is up to you.
P.S. - Where is your thread, Lotus? I couldn't find it when I looked.
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undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
I was doing a 180 - we'll see how it goes. Change the action; change the result.
Absolutely nothing I do is an attempt to speed a divorce - it's the last thing I want. Half the point of making these changes is to show my husband the strong, beautiful, decisive woman he stands to lose. The other half of the point is to prove it to me.
