So, when I picture Coach's boundary-setting conversation, I can see it going either of two ways
first off, do not try picturing the scenerio in your head. that is all it is, a scenerio in you head. dont expect just do it.
secondly,
Originally Posted By: coach
"Wife, I understand you are not happy. I have decided that I will not share you with another man. If you contact another man for the purposes of a relationship, I will pack your belongings put them in the garage and expect you to move out in 2 weeks."
SAY IT AND MEAN IT.
To add to what Coach said, if your wife gets involved in an affair your entire situation will spiral out of control. This board is filled with men whose wives are in affairs. Read some of them. It will scare you. So, do whatever you can to "avert" the possibility. It is easier to deal with her whackiness than to deal with her whackiness and the fact she is sleeping with someone else.
My wife hit that "magic age" and needed to find herself. The horoscopes, "new age" and eastern religons, (told me there was a spirit of a monk which was guiding her through life), odd ball friends, one day she'd act like she was 18 the next she would be normal, chanting on the sofa at 2am in the morning. I could go on there was some really bizarre behavior. But to sum it up,
My daughters nickname for her is "weird."
Then came the need to find herself sexually. And the anger, and the continued weirdness. I often taught my story was so-far fetched it could not be true. But, honestly, it wasnt all that unique.
