After he agrees to your plan make sure you have it written in a e-mail. Don't let it be a verbal agreement.
Be very clear about your boundaries, you deserve to be treated with respect and honor. This is a gift you give yourself. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Here is my email (nothing verbal for me anymore lol) Coach - If you think anything needs to be changed, please feel free...
Dear H.
I will agree to both boys coming to your place for the following days 12/29-09-01/01/10. I will make sure they are packed and ready to go on 12/29/09 by 11am, I want them brought back to my house on 01/01/10 no later then 4pm.
Oldest S as you know is on probabtion so he is not to be unsupervised at anytime. His curfew is 8pm and he has to be indoors at that time.
If this is something you are wanting to start, then I request consistancy on your part. I don't want you to see them and then go another 6 months before it happens again. You are off on Sundays so if you would like to pick them up for a movie or dinner, we can work that out.
Under no circumstances is OW to be anywhere around them at anytime they are in your care. I would expect you to use this time having fun with your boys, not spending the day on your phone talking and texting her while they entertain themselves.
Serenity
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I will agree to both boys coming to your place for the following days 12/29-09-01/01/10. I will make sure they are packed and ready to go on 12/29/09 by 11am, I want them brought back to my house on 01/01/10 no later then 4pm.
Oldest S as you know is on probabtion so he is not to be unsupervised at anytime. His curfew is 8pm and he has to be indoors at that time.
If thisseeing the boys on a regular basis is something you are wanting to start, then I request consistancy on your part. I don't want you to see them and then go another 6 months before it happens again. Only seeing the boys once every 6 months is damaging to the boys and detrimental to any realtionship you might want to have with them You are off on Sundays so if you would like to pick them up for a movie or dinner, we can work that out.
Under no circumstances is OW to be anywhere around them at anytime they are in your care. As long as we are married I will not tolerate any contact with the boys and her. If you want to see the boys then this is your choice.I would expect you to use this time having fun with your boys, not spending the day on your phone talking and texting her while they entertain themselves.
Serenity _________________________
I have to run, I will check in later. You are doing fine. Do you notice he is acknowledging your boundary? You will believe it when you see it but right now go with the understanding of good intentions. If he follows you boundary let him know you appreciate it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
