No I'm 100% certain this is not a 'substitute' issue. We had several degrees and ways to tell which reason why we were ML. We had the 'for you's', for me's, the for the both, the just for the hell of it, for excercise, and the list goes on and my all time favorite, makeup.
I know there' s no gimmick here. I'm just worried about my inner voices getting the better of me.
As far as OM goes, she has been open about any interactions. Yeah, sometimes I have to poke her a bit, but she comes clean on what was said and why. There is zero trace of him ever being at 'her house' tho. And she has been addiment to state that they never had sex (eeewwwwwwww) in her father's house. And in her own way, she says they weren't all that active with each other anyway (double eeeewwwwwwww ) Me on the other hand, I had my friend with benefits there for a while, and well, what can I say? So, I get we're on a two way street with that one.
EDIT - So in reading this, I think it was more of an EA for her, and he wanted it PA, of which she obviously went along to some degree.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11