Calling out the Piecers

[mishka422]

Yeah, seriously! Your FB needs some new stuff buddy!

You are right, every sitch is different and every person has their triggers.

IMO, if you can get your mind off of the "I don't know where she's been" thoughts then proceed with caution. If those thought are overriding then you may need to delay for your own sanity.

Example? This may be TMI, but I'll share for the greater good.

Gabe came home twice after he bombed and left. During his first return home we ML once and I felt like I was being used as a substitute for the broom even though he claimed that he wanted our M and not her. The problem with that was that he wouldn't cut off contact with her so I knew it wasn't really over. The second time he came home we ML a few times and the emotional connection was better, it was like an inferno, however my mind was still telling me that this was not about me and him, but about his need to feel that he wasn't destroying his family.

When he left again to go back to her, it was the final nail in the coffin holding my self-respect. If you have any inkling that OM is still sniffing around and she teeters at all......BACK AWAY QUICKLY. It could lead to very bad things for your mental health.

That's all I've got for ya on that one. Not an easy decision at all. The libido wants what it wants regardless of our logical minds.

Good luck!!!