NC - W vanished ...

[P17]

I agree with Cutter...your IM is there for a reason! W will hear the thank you through IM. If you play "dark" you must follow the rules.

So are you open to letting your W see your D if she pushes? I thought I remember reading that.

Merry Christmas, P!

Here we go again Around the emotions route we go ...

Newmama - I'm not open to letting W spend time with D yet. She consistently displays bad judgement, disinterest and is not a role model for my D. That may change in the future, but for the time being that's my stance.

Another update (all I seem to be is have updates)!

D's mum was in the shop with D and W was working. I have said to D all along that if she wants to speak to W, wave at her or whatever she can and I would not stop her (D was stopped from doing that with both W and me during the 7 years we fought to see her and I am NOT going to do it to her again).

Anyway, she went up to talk to W and W told her that she had a present for her but she couldn't give it to her because mummy hadn't texted her back ...

D is now very upset because she misses W. I don't think it's actually so much the present, just she misses her. Will need to rethink my sitch about NC with D now too. Although D is less likely to speak to her in future as she has been upset so she may feel better knowing that she has made that decision and not been told by Daddy.

WTF kind of thing is that to tell a kid on Xmas Eve? Yeah. I have a present for you but you can't get it because mummy and daddy are being mean to me? Drop the effing thing off at the door and walk away ... (you can do that kind of thing up here in fact many people don't actually lock their doors here when the go out - yes it's true).

I'm not annoyed. I'm not angry. It's just another WTF to add to the 'My WAS Bag Of Confused Moments'.

The reason ... what cutter said ...

Come at you with anger.
Come at you with sweetness.
Each one is to break contact.

She came at with sweetness (sort of and indirectly) asking if she could drop presents off. Now she came at me (again indirectly) with anger by using D ...

Not sure what to do now. Will figure it out by doing what is right.

Bot of you mentioned that I shouldn't send the text ... I'm now wondering which one (or both)? The initial text saying it was okay to drop off presents or the second one wishing her a Merry Chirstmas?

The right thing to do is take the higher ground, send the text about the presents and that she can drop them off and forget about her petty games.