The first step is to get rid of the negative feelings. Why do you keep bringing them up?
You seem standoffish?
You are depressed?
Improve her surroundings - you, your family, your home, the atmosphere, the music, smells, sights, feel, and taste of the world you two inhabit. Do it without expectation.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.