Oh, I got the memo alright. For years, according to my wife, the reasons (100's of different ones) she didn't want sex was because of something I had done, or failed to have done, or said, or failed to have said. And sometimes they were things that took place, or didn't and should have, days ago, months ago, or even years ago.
Originally Posted By: TeaEarlGreyHot
I'm 56 years old so it's not like I'm some immature teenager with raging hormones.
I'm about the same age as you, so I'm not a teenager. But my hormones are still raging. Which goes against all the crap I've heard from experts who say that men peak sexually in their late teens, while women peak in middle age. And so by the time a couple hits middle age, or so the theory goes, many couples are closely matched in terms of sexual desire and function. This is the biggest piece of crap I've ever heard, based on my personal observations, including friends of both genders. Of course there are exceptions, but this "expert" wisdom is generally NOT true. Just why do you think the entire Jay Leno audience laughs when the premise of the joke is the woman doesn't want sex? It's because everybody knows it's so common. Duh.
I know the author of this forum has written a book for HD women with LD men, and I'm sure there are many such couples out of the millions in this country. But it is not as common as your situations, or my situation, or the situation Leno jokes about all the time.
