Kevin, this is a pisser of a situation. But you can't do anything about it. Not being able to do anything about it doesn't mean that you approve of it. She doesn't care what you think about it man! I'm on your side. But this isn't a battle that you can win...it isn't even a boundry that you can enforce. You can let her know how you feel about it...but that's just for you. If you do let her know how you feel about it, she's just gonna say some crap to you that'll hurt you more. Keep being the best Kevin that you can, and love your girls...that's all you can do...and it is the ONLY thing that you have any control over at all regarding your situation. Again, I'm on your side.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.