I really feel for you in your situation. Last night, I talked with my W and she finally after 2.5 years came completely clean on all of her indiscretions (read here). I can't say that hearing the truth is easy. MAJOR agonizing gut-punches, actually. But I needed to hear her confess directly to me the things I already knew (BTW, one of the encounters was with someone in our close circle of friends). I haven't had 2 years to detach like you have, and my W isn't wanting to come back, knowing that I will never be able to trust her again, so our sitches are different, but I understand your need to know...I'm just like you in that regard. I do feel a sense of relief of sorts. I know that it will eventually help provide me closure. If nothing else, it confirmed the path that I know I have to travel.
My heart is with you and your kids this Christmas.
Me 45 WAW 36 S8 T 15 M 12 Multiple PA's since 6/07 W moved out 10/25/09 I filed D 12/29/09 Sitch
