Move over... I 'm moving back......

[sandycay]

Wow 10 days since I posted last? I am not a page 3 girl so let's bump it up!

After a 3 hour marathon session with my attorney....We hammered out our parenting plan and signed the documents. We have a tentative draft of financials.. they will be drawn up over the holidays and hopefully he will sign them ... he is going to be generous if he agrees. It was a tough meeting for both of us. I hope it will seperate the business of this and help with the awkward dance we seem to have when trying to communicate.

I have let things cool a bit with SC guy .... not him, it's me. Nice man, but I am not interested in long distance. Too bad, he's a sweetie but nice to have a friend in my corner.

On the FFG front.... things have been moving forward some. We attended the Christmas party at his friends house. It was fun. He bought me a Christmas present. Several weeks ago he was saying that he found a gift his father had bought him that he had forgotten about.. its one of those phone valet things where you can plug all your stuff in (phone, ipod and such) and I was telling him I had looked at those several times as between the kids and I we have many cords but could never justify buying it. So he got that for me.... (seriously,. it was a 30 second exchange 3 weeks ago.... I mean someone is actually listening to me?.... I almost needed oxygen to recover...LOL)

Also, about two weeks ago we were riding in the car and we passed a billboard for this really cool show they put on in Seattle...so just idle chit chat I said.... Man, I am gonna do that in 2010.... been wanting to do that since I moved here... so next year...I'm doing it" Again, a 10 second blurb in a converssation... well then after opening above gift...he said ... there's a card inside... so I open the card and it's a gift certificate to the show. (ok.... brownie points are racking up for FF guy... I don't know how to act that someone is actually listening to ME!)

Also, on that same day we were out...we were in the city and I asked him which direction he firestation was.... I get a little lost in the city.... and he said... "wanna drive by there"... so I say sure.... well... we drive over there and he pulls in parking lot and stops the car and starts getting out.... Now, I look and there are about 8 FF guys sitting there looking at us thru a big window.... I said... "uumm thought we were just driving by?" He said.....Just thought you'd like to see where I live when I'm not at home"... So, I got the tour, the once over from the guys at the Firestation, and we left. While we were in there... one of the FF ask me if I ride (motorcycles)because FFG has a big one that he rides to save gas on commute... I said "well, I have in the past but not lately" FFG ... says "well, it's a little cold for her right now and the weather is not good but this spring if she's ready, we'll be going.

Wait a minute..... is that future planning? I just stayed quiet. Last night we got to ride the ferry home (as STBXH had to kids) and Secretcheerleader rides the same ferry so we met her there and she got to meet him. Its good to get someone elses opinion.

Plus FFG was honest in a moment last week when he told me he had a profile on Match... but he said, "I just wanted you to know that I have a profile on there, but my subscription is ending so I didn't want you to think that I am out there looking for other dates right now. I did want you to know that I am receiving emails from other women still and I writing them back letting them know that I am not interested in dating right now, that I had met someone, and to wish them success. I didn't like it when people didn't have the courtesy to email you back. I just wanted you to know that".

Well, cool that he is being honest... but now I need to check out his profile in a couple of weeks to see if he's being honest or not about that. He also added that this is where he is at this time and what he wants to do .... He is not pressuring me to do the same....

I find my self being very reserve, which is good but different. In the past (20 years ago) if someone was being this nice and thoughtful.... I would have jumped right in. So it's nice being in a mature place, able to sit back and observe relationships stuff with all that I have learned in the two years I have been here.

Well ... guess I have posted enough.... I will be moving to the Surviving the Divorce on Jan 1, 2010!